You have made your decision to focus on the task of helping your child get over shyness. Now you are doing everything to know more about how you will be able to achieve that. If the case is simple and you think that you can handle this on your own, you might as well start on it while the child is at the stage where you can easily control them. You should also act upon things before they enter school and start mingling about with kids their age.
The main thing that you must understand about the matter is that this is a process. You must never impose for changes to happen so quickly. As much as possible, you would want your child to enjoy their age. You are only helping by molding them to become the kind of person that could have a better outlook and disposition in the future. Here are some points that you can start thinking about when you have set your mind into helping your kid become more active and more expressive.
1. The first thing that you must be careful about is for your shy kid to be teased about their attitude. This will only make matters worse for them and they may find it harder to move forward and get past such attitude if they will often receive this treatment. You may have not noticed it before, but even their own family members commit this mistake and what’s worse, they do it in front of other people. You must be alert all the time to prevent this kind of occurrence. At this point, you have to think of ways of how you can help boost your child’s confidence and self-esteem and teasing is not part of it.
2. You may have noticed that your child wants to be often left alone. You can allow them to do that but make sure that you counter that by exposing them to events and other happenings where they can also get exposed to many people. You can bring them to places where they will enjoy themselves and see other kids interact with one another. If they show signs of trying to be sociable, you must praise them for the effort and show your support by encouraging them to continue such behavior.
3. If they are being asked questions by other people, do not easily speak for them. Allow them to speak for their own behalf. Give them a chance to strategize their answers or how they would want to approach the matter. Just come into rescue when you see that they are really not interested in continuing with any conversation to the people who are talking to them.
4. You must not brutally tell them what you want to happen or why you are doing these things and following certain techniques in order to help them. You must do everything subtlety. You must not let them feel like you are rushing them into becoming who you want them to be. Allow them to grow, get over shyness and come out of their shell at their own pace.