Winning Back Your Ex
So, you have done something that has ruined your relationship. You committed a violation that resulted in a single status for you. Now, you are looking back at things and feeling awful. You want that relationship that you had back. You miss having that special person in your life. You are willing to do whatever it takes to get that back.
The first thing that you need to do is take some time to evaluate everything. When any relationship first ends, we always want it back. However, as time goes on, we may come to realize that this feeling passes and that this was really not the best relationship for us. Give yourself some time to clarify everything and to get over the guilt and grief process. If you find that after a few weeks, a few months, or maybe even a year in some cases, you still have that overwhelming desire to be back with your ex, then it is time to start trying to make that happen.
Start out by rebuilding your friendship with your ex. Chances are the breakup has caused major strain on both of you and on your friendship as well as everything else. Start spending time with your ex just as friends. Keep it very light and casual. This will prevent any unnecessary confusions or hostility. You have to start over and rebuild that bond completely from scratch. There is no possible way to get that romantic relationship back if you have not rebuilt the friendship and the bond that holds everything together.
You can start going on some casual dates once the friendship has been significantly restored. You want to keep these pressure free and just fun times. Do not force the relationship and loving feelings back on your ex. Give them time to adjust. They need to see that you have truly changed. They need that reassurance before they are even capable of making any decisions regarding a romantic relationship with you again. So, you need to respect their boundaries and give them all the time that they need. Keep in mind that this is essential for getting them back in your life.
Move very slowly as you progress into a new relationship with your partner. Do not be in a rush to make things happen. This will only create more problems for both of you and could ruin any chance that you have of being back together with this special person. While you are rebuilding your relationship, you are also rebuilding your partners trust and faith in you. It is imperative to let them know that you have changed. You want them to know how much they mean to you and that you want them in your life. You are the only one that can show them this. Use this time to your advantage and show them everything that is different about you.
More often than not, if you follow the above mentioned guidelines, you will be able to reestablish a relationship with your ex. Chances are that the new relationship will be much better than before. There will be a whole new understanding and bond between the two of you. You will be able to communicate more effectively and to make things work to the best of your ability.