Unapproved Relationships – Forbidden Love
So, you think that you have met the perfect guy or girl. They seem to be exactly what you are looking for. You are happy and you feel as though you are floating on air. There is nothing that could compare to this feeling that you have. You have never been so happy in your life. You are more fulfilled and your life seems to be perfect and complete.
You decide that you want to introduce your new partner to your family. With as much as you love and cherish this person, there is no way that your family could not love them, right? This is a common misconception that people, especially teenagers and young adults, trick themselves into believing.
They think that this person that they see as being perfect is going to be perfect in everyones eyes. They do not look at the big picture. They are simply looking at what is right in front of them. They are blinded by love. This is a common occurrence.
After taking your new partner to meet your parents and having a dinner that feels kind of awkward to you, you see your date off and then return to the house. You immediately start demanding your parents to explain to you why they were so cold and hostile to your new love interest.
You want to know why they do not see the loving, affectionate, perfect person that you see. Your parents take you into the living room and sit you down so that they can explain the whole story to you.
Your new love is unemployed. He has no means to be able to take care of you or support you. Your father wants you to be with someone that can take care of you and treat you the way that he feels you should be treated.
This new love has no goals and no desires. He is not going anywhere in life. Your parents see him as being someone that is going to hold you back in life. He is going to bring you down. You will not be able to reach your full potential with this person.
These are some common concerns that parents have and that they express in regards to a new relationship. You should take what they say to heart and analyze everything from an unbiased point of view. If you feel that they are wrong, then you can push for their approval. Prove your parents wrong.
Make them realize that they are not right about this person. Talk with your partner about their goals and dreams for their life. Help them to find a meaningful place in life. By helping them to succeed, you will be succeeding yourself. You will be showing your friends and family that you can make good decisions and that you are right in what you want.
If, however, you find that what your parents are saying is true and you do not think that you can change it, be gentle when you let this person down. The worst thing that you can do is be blunt and repeat exactly what your parents said.
This can be very hurtful and devastating to a person that is being dumped. Make it as pain free and easy as you can. This will help both of you recover from the loss quicker.