You might find yourself with the strong emotional urge to want to get back together with your ex after your breakup, but sometimes getting back together with your ex is not the best thing for you to do. There would be a couple of things that you need to assess with your previous relationship, as well as assess within yourself, to be able to determine what your best move it, whether it is to get back together with your ex or to simply move on to a new relationship with someone else. Here are a couple of things that you can use to help you make that decision.
You Feel Unsure
When you feel unsure on your decision to get back together with your ex, or if you have a lot of doubt in your mind, then it is better if you do not push through with it for the mean time. Making a decision to get back together with an ex requires a lot of commitment and care, especially since you are dealing with your exs feelings aside from your own, which is why you need to make sure that your heart is really in it. Dont get back together with your ex if you dont really want to do it as this will only result in another break up.
Many Unresolved Issues
If you and your ex still has a lot of unresolved issues, then it is probably better if you opt to fix those issues first before making any plans of getting back together as this will help iron out some things in your relationship that might have caused it to fail in the first place. The main issue that you need to try and fix is the main cause for your break up. Once you get that out of the way, you can actually begin to try and rekindle the spark in your relationship already, as well as try to fix other issues that might have contributed to your conflict.
Your Ex Doesnt Want To
If your ex doesnt want to get back together with you, then you shouldnt force him to. That should be a clear sign for you to start moving on from your relationship and probably start a new relationship with somebody else. Just remember to give yourself time to move on from your previous relationship first before starting a new one, just to make sure that you are already over it and avoid any problems with your new one.
Your Ex Has Moved On
Once you see your ex in a new relationship with somebody else that is an indication that your ex is probably moving on from your relationship already. In this period in your break up, it isnt advisable to try and get back together with him because you might actually cause some problems with your exs new relationship. Whats more is you might ruin your exs chance to get over your break up.
Allow your ex to be happy with someone else since you already had your chance to make things work, and it didnt necessarily end well. Also, you had opportunities to get back together with him, but now that your ex is with someone else, then that opportunity has already passed you.