Perhaps one of the hardest things to deal with when youve found yourself pregnant and alone is what comes after. Taking care of a child can be pretty overwhelming especially when you are young and not really ready for such a big responsibility. It will be a complete lifestyle change. In an instant, you will need to really grow up and become more mature. You will need to forget about partying and having a good time and instead focus on getting a job and ensuring that your child will be well-taken care of.
Your life as you know it as a young single individual will need to take a backseat to your childs future.
But though single parenting can seem pretty gloomy, it does not have to be so depressing. With the right attitude, you can make this experience a positive one, something that you can learn a lot from. Here are some ways that will help you make the journey of a young single mom much easier.
1. Get on with your life
There is no use getting mad at the cards fate had dealt you with. There is also no use trying to force somebody (aka your partner) to take responsibility when he clearly does not want to have anything to do with raising the child. The best way to start your life is to accept your fate and move on. You owe it to your child to be at peace with what happened and just make the best out of it. There is life after getting pregnant. Youll never have when you continue to cling to the past.
2. Join a support group
There is nothing more comforting than to know that you are not alone in this situation and that there are others who are also going through the same things that you are going through. When you think about it, it is pretty bad of people to feel happy when others are suffering too but it is a fact of life. We want to know that there are people who are also in the same boat.
A support group is also a wonderful way to meet people who can help you and give you advice. Remember that some of these people have already gone through what you are just starting to go through. They can give you great insights and refer you things that will make the experience easier.
3. Know your priorities
It is not impossible to get sidetracked for a while from your duties. You are young and because you have not really been able to enjoy life, you will probably miss singlehood. If you find yourself at this crossroad, just think about your baby and how his or her future depends on you. Mothers have instincts and as idealistic as it sounds, most will do the right thing and prioritize their children.
Just be clear about your priorities from the get go. That way, it will be a constant reminder for you during times when you get tempted to go back to your old ways.