Many relationships fail these days that result to single parenting.
Some say because of so many options people have when it comes to choosing their partners. While others agree that the busy schedule brought by the modern times is the major culprit. No matter what the reasons are for separation of couples who have kids, there is no reason for anybody to be an irresponsible parent.
Contrary to common perception that single parenting is a burdenbecause the parent who has the custody of the child will shoulder all the responsibilities in raising the childbeing a single parent can be fun, too! This is because there will be nobody to consult when it comes to raising the child. Next is that more time can be spent to attend to all the needs of the childat home and inside the school.
Surviving single parenting
After separation, the couple concerned is not the only ones that are affected. Aside from family and friends, the persons who will be most affected would be the children. Experts say that kidsregardless of their agescould be greatly affected by any form separation. These effects would depend on attitude of the child towards life. But, the success in this lies mainly on how parents help the child deal with the mixed emotions and feeling of insecurity though effective single parenting.
In order to be an effective single parent, one must be more attentive and supportive of the young ones. A parent pay more attention to children and being more patient on them. Aside from the ones mentioned, single parenting could be more smooth-sailing if a parent:
– shows that he or she has enough time to tend to whatever the child needs, asks or demands. Experts agree that single parents that show that they have enough time to answer the inquisitions and grant the requests of children are more likely to have kids that are less insecure. This is because this kind of attention will make the child feel more important and can help them see things in a positive manner.
– always listen to what the child says. Kids who have single parents crave for more attention compared to those who live with both of their parents. So, it is a must for a single parent to have greater listening skills when it comes to children who love to tell stories and share their views. This can help the child develop the self-confidence he or she needs in order to deal with sadness brought by the separation of his or her parents.
– spends quality time with the child. Although single parenting will eventually takes its toll on you since you are doing all the work, this is not reason enough not to spend quality time with the child. If you do this, you are updated what’s going on in his/her life. You can also veer away children from any form of depression because they know that they can count on you anytime.